01/6What bullying looks like in parenting
Irrespective of who the bully is, bullying in all its forms is wrong.
Parental bullying is something that is often overlooked or hidden under the guise of love and care. Those who lack effective parenting skills may often resort to aggressive tactics to shape their children's behaviour. Hence, if you find yourself using aggression or unkind language to discipline your kid, you could be their first bully and not even realise it!
That said, here are things to keep in mind.
02/6Do not use harsh words
There comes a time we all lose our calm and say things that we don't mean. But when it comes to handling children, parents must be patient and avoid using unkind or harsh words. Words have more power than actions sometimes and children can feel extremely hurt by the aggressive comments you make towards them. Parents are the one person, kids look up to when they're young and if you call them out and be unkind to them, they'll be in lots of emotional pain.
03/6Humiliation can cause a dent to your child's self esteem
Sometimes, parents find it easier to embarrass their children to push them to work harder, rather than guiding them and explaining everything step by step. That's extremely harmful for children in the long run. Over time, while they may push themselves, feeling humiliated will only damage their confidence and self-esteem. They may never feel up to the mark or worthy of anything. This kind of bullying is common in parenting and what's worse is that parents don't even realise it.
04/6Making comparisons between children makes things worse
At one point in all our lives, we all have been compared to someone who has done better than us in life. We use this same tactic on our young children, so as to brace them up to work harder. But does it really help? Or does it just make things worse? The latter could be a bigger possibility, since comparisons only give light unproductive competition and jealousy. When parents compare their children with other kids, they're only telling their children what they're not good at. That said, instead of making comparisons, tell your child how they can progress, what they can do to grow.
05/6Hitting and yelling is never the answer
Both physical and verbal abuse can harm a child tremendously. Irrespective of how badly your child behaves, do not hit or yell at them, as it's unlikely to change anything but can make matters worse. Raising your hands on kids and chiding them is just another form of bullying, where you're only trying to instill fear so that they obey or do not repeat the same mistakes again.
06/6Do not force your dreams on your child
One of the worst forms of parental bullying is when you try to enforce your dreams on your kids. You make them work hard so they can live fulfilling your aims and aspirations. Children have their own talents, skills and capabilities and just because you were deprived of resources and opportunities, you cannot pressurize your children into believing how lucky they are. Let them be free of such shackles and let them pursue their own dreams.