Sep 11, 2021

Indian marriage customs that should be banned by now

Debomitra Das

Kanyadaan

In this, the father of the bride gives away his daughter to the groom as charity is completely despicable. Getting married doesn’t mean the bride can’t be associated with her former home.

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Bidaai

Before the bride leaves for her husband’s home, she throws a thaali of rice over her head as a sign that she’s repaying the ‘debt’ at her father’s home and this is absolutely unacceptable.

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Kashiyatra

Now considered to be a fun event, the groom gets up from the mandap to go on a kashiyatra and he refuses to marry so that he can carry on with other worldly pleasures. The bride’s father stops him and tells him the advantages of marriage and then the groom returns to the mandap.

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Feet washing

The bride’s parents or the bride herself has to wash the feet of the groom after he enters the wedding venue. This is entirely an outdated concept.

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Haldi ceremony

In some parts of India, the haldi used to put on the groom’s body is sent to the bride’s home to be put on her. This seems unhygienic and irrelevant.

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First name change

In some cultures, the woman has to take up a new first name after basing it according to her husband’s astrological charts. No woman should have to change her birth name, ever.

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Pot balancing

In Bihar, the bride has to balance a pot on her head while she does all chores of the house just after the wedding to prove her duty. After every 5 minutes, another pot is added to her head!

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Absence of mother in wedding

This Bengali ritual asks the mother of the bride and groom to be absent from the wedding as it is said to cause harm to the newlywed couple. Talk about being ridiculous!

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Marrying a tree or a dog

In this bizarre ritual, a Manglik bride has to marry a tree or a dog before she marries the groom. It is said Manglik women bring ill fortune so by marrying the tree/dog before, the evil spirits are being warded off. Such beliefs should be unfollowed immediately!

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